Dating & Relationship Coach | Napa Valley


"Born & Raised in Napa Valley Wine Country"

Dating & Relationship Coaching Napa Valley

Graduating from Vintage High School of Napa, Ca., I was deeply and proudly involved in Athletics, Music, Art and the student body and later attended and wrestled at Chico State and transferred to Arizona State. “Go Sun Devils!”

Also a God Father to an amazingly Creative, Cute and Highly Curious God Daughter whom I am very Proud of.

I was born & Raised in a family of 7 siblings with 2 restaurants. Growing up with 4 brothers and 2 sisters taught Me a Powerful work ethic, which has carried through my entire life. Teaching me to always strive to be the very Best in everything I do.

This has lead me to win numerous State and National Championships in Boxing, Kickboxing, Wrestling, Football & Art. And to writing my books "Crack The Female Code" & "Why Men Just Don't Get It".



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Watching my Parents Struggle Ripped my very Soul apart.

As a very, very young child I watched my father Struggle to death with all his heart and soul to give my mother everything she could have possibly desired in a relationship. He cooked, he cleaned he bought her flowers constantly.

When I say cooked, I mean he literally cooked her a 7 course meal. My parents owned Restaurants. So my Dad knew how to cook. He also cooked the most amazing deserts as well. And he knew how to design them to look spectacular.

We made really good money. Financially we were very well off.

He took her out to dinner, romanced her, loved her, you name it. My Father Was in Love with my Mother & their Love "Inspired" him! My Father was the King of Romance!

Yet every single night, for years, all I heard was my mother screaming and yelling at my father from her Heart & Soul... and he cried out every night, "What's wrong Now?????"

It's like he could do nothing right in her eyes!

Hiding in bed hearing all that yelling night after night for hours on end did something to me. It was unconscious I suppose. But it did guide me to my Destiny!

The Divorce was so horrendous it tore our family apart. At 6 years old it was the last time I saw my father for almost 14 years... 

In my late teen's I literally found my father. And had the fortune to spend time with him. One day I was walking out of the house going to church and my father walked me down the driveway. As I asked him to come to church, suddenly out of no where he cries out, "If God is So Great, why did he make it so hard to Love a Woman?!!!!!!!!!" With Tears in his eyes, pouring down his face... Sobbing, he looked desperately to me for the answer and he said, "No Matter how Hard I Loved your Mother, no matter what I did it only made her angrier and angrier!" 

Sobbing & Heaving he just stared at me desperately... 

I just stared at him with "No Answer!"

I so badly wanted to help my father. His heart was bleeding and he needed to be Loved. I just hugged him in absolute shock as he sobbed heaving and sobbing. I had never seen my father cry let alone completely fall apart. 

In shock, I walked off down the street to give my first sermon. Suddenly church didn't matter. Suddenly speaking to the church made no difference in the World. I was a complete blank.

My confidence was completely gone, drained out of me... as I walked up to the church, I was a complete blank... All my notes, what I was going to talk about... suddenly didn't matter... 

I can't tell you what that did to me... 

I just remember walking down the isle... feeling dead inside... I opened my bible... Looked at my notes... shook my head... looked down... looked out to the people... then looked up!

I pushed all of my notes aside...  And Spoke! Simply Let Go completely and began to speak from my heart... As mouth's began to drop, I flipped from one end of the bible to the other and back again, speaking feverishly for over an hour non stop!

That Day Changed my life to an extent I can't quite tell you right now. But I will tell you this. I read the Bible and studied the Bible like my life depended on it for decades. I bought the King James Hebrew Greek Key Study Bible with the Strongs Dictionary * Word Study * Concordance. I also bought the King James Bible Word Book, and bought the Vines Complete Expository Dictionary. 

I wanted to KNOW!!! What did this word, that word and every word in the bible mean back then when it was written? I wanted to know what every word, every phrase meant when it was written. I wanted the proper translation.

I began to study Psychology, Linguistics, Communication, Human Behavior, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Ericksonian Hypnotherapy, Hawaiian Energy Healing, HUNA, Pranic Healing, Reiki, & Time Line Therapy like my life depended on it!

At the time I didn't know why.... I just had this Unstoppable Obsession that Drove me!

I flew to Hawaii, Southern California, Pennsylvania, anywhere and everywhere to study with the Masters, to Learn the Newest, Most Powerful forms of Psychology and Discoveries in Human Behavior, Therapy & Healing! 

For over 12 years I did everything in my Power constantly reading, learning, listening to Audio Tapes in my sleep, while driving, while jogging day and night non stop. I even played NLP and Psychology audio tapes while sleeping.

I meditated every day for 12 years straight, 2 hours in the morning and 2 hours at night and even longer on weekends.

I studied Esoteric teachings from Hawaii to New Zealand to Japan and all around the world.

"I was completely Obsessed."  

For over a decade, I was in a total and complete Panic, going 180 mph non stop, and I didn't even know why! All I knew was I had to find The Answer. But I didn't even know I was looking for an answer at the time. 

Until I saw it. There it was Staring me right in the face as it had been my entire life!

It was like the curtains were pulled back, the windows opened and the light shined through clearer than it had ever shined in before in my entire life! 

And Now to you I offer!

"The Answer!"


All those years struggling, suffering, fighting with my first girlfriend, next girlfriend and so on...

It was all 1 Big Massive Misunderstanding due to the fact we are wired completely differently!

Once you see it, once you hear it, once you know what this is you will realize, She's been saying it to you her entire life. All women have, FOR CENTURIES!!!!!!!! It's we men who have missed it!

I don't think I have "THE ANSWER!" 


I'm Saving Marriages, Changing Lives. And you don't have to suffer or struggle in Relationships due to not having This Answer anymore! 

My Father died shortly after that day he Cried & Sobbed in my arms not knowing what "The Answer is!"

A few years later I taught this to my mother. After understanding what this is, she got quiet for a while... then eventually came back out and said, "So your Father did Love me."

I can and will absolutely Guarantee you this Right Here, Right Now!

"Without this Answer you are Doomed to a LifeTime of Heart Wrenching Suffering and Struggling with the Opposite sex til the day you die! This is my absolute Promise and Assurance to you!"

You are Literally standing at a Precipice of a New Discovery right now! It's a Choice!

You don't have to suffer or Struggle in Relationships anymore!

You have the Choice to Make the Right Decision. You are standing at the Doorway of KNOWING!

 It's Not all about Being Soft & Loving!

Sometimes you have to be Tough!

Trust me, my clients learn how to put their foot down, Take Charge & Make things happen! This is a complete Course on Love, Communication & Understanding through Strength!

I grew up in a very Rough & Tumble way to say the least, studying Martial Arts from age of 4 to fighting from the age of 9 til I was 32 years old competing around the world and across the Nation! Boxing, Kickboxing, Muay Thai and playing sports from Football & Wrestling in High School & College!

Jacob "Stitch" Duran my former Coach & Cut Man

Notably one of my coaches, current Friend & Mentor, is the famous Jacob “Stitch” Duran, the #1 cut-man for the UFC (Ultimate Fighting Championship) & Top Ranked Boxing and World Champion Kick-Boxers, Who has also been in 5 block buster movies including 2 Rocky Movies!


Cut Man Jacob "Stitch" Duran UFC

Former Coach & Cut Man Jacob "Stitch" Duran


It's not over until you Win! See, that's why you are here!!! Period!!



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