Elite Dating & Relationship Coach
"Born & Raised in Napa Valley Wine Country"
Graduating from Vintage High School of Napa, Ca., I was deeply and proudly involved in Athletics, Music, Art and the student body and later attended and wrestled at Chico State and transferred to Arizona State. “Go Sun Devils!”
Also a God Father to an amazingly Creative, Cute and Highly Curious God Daughter whom I am very Proud of.
I was born & Raised in a family of 7 siblings with 2 restaurants. Growing up with 4 brothers and 2 sisters taught Me a Powerful work ethic, which has carried through my entire life. Teaching me to always strive to be the very Best in everything I do.
This has lead me to win numerous State and National Championships in Boxing, Kickboxing, Wrestling, Football & Art. And to writing my books "Crack The Female Code" & "Why Men Just Don't Get It".
My Story Starts Here
It was this very Tragic series of Turns that Ultimately, Continually put me, Nudged me onto my path!
So after my friends died:
Let the Journey Begin
My life was on Fire!
After my 28th Birthday I made a Commitment to meditate every day, all day until... well... Until I had some undeniable experience I guess. I can't put it into words. All I can say is I was really, really hurting still almost 9 years later after my Best Friend died and I couldn't take it anymore. I didn't know what else to do...
It was on the 14th day that it Happened.
I burst out Crying, Begging for God to come into me and take away the pain! I finally, completely and totally surrendered, let go. It took 14 days of fasting, no food and meditating every single day to get to the point of total and complete surrender! I fully and completely Let go full of tears flowing down my face...
Out of Nowhere a Complete and Total Calm washed over Me, My entire Mind, Body and Soul.... Suddenly everything was ok. It was over....
I finally went to bed, fell asleep and slept the deepest sleep I had ever experienced in my life!
Something was Different
I woke up more refreshed than I had ever felt in my entire life. Something was Different. Such peacefulness, clarity and openness. Total and complete relaxation.
My mind was completely silent. Not a thought... just silence. I woke up feeling a sense of happiness or peace I don't think I have ever felt. I got out of bed. Walked to the bathroom mirror and looked into my eyes and suddenly began to smile...
My entire life I thought I was the ugly duckling of the family. And I remember noticing how Beautiful my eyes were. I couldn't tell if my face or anything else was considered beautiful but my eyes... I fell in Love with my eyes. I didn't know why but I Loved my eyes. Later I realized I had finally fell in Love with myself!
I looked down at my hands and they didn't look like my hands. They looked like a strangers hands. They were older a bit rougher, like they were 15 years older... I suddenly realized I haven't really looked at my hands or face in over 15 years since I was a child. The image in my mind of my hands and face didn't match what I was seeing in this moment...
I was having this amazing experience like seeing life for the first time in over 15 years! It was more than Clarity, it was Awareness, Consciousness, it was a Deeper Understanding of myself and others. Suddenly I could feel Life!
Suddenly everything I believed, I didn't believe yet I did believe. I mean, it was a 180 Degree shift in Perspective on everything, Life, Religion, Spirituality, Relationships, People, everything!!
It was like I was seeing life from the full 360 Degree perspective! Life was Full and complete!
Suddenly I could see! I was Awake!
It was a Deeper Understanding! A Greater Awareness!
It wasn't belief, it wasn't faith... sure Faith and surrender Opened the door... but it wasn't belief...
It was a Knowing!
Before all I could see was a surface level of life. Now there was depth to everything there was Rich Color and Contrast to every experience I was having! Being able to shift from one perspective to the other suddenly gave me a full spectrum of experience and understanding, a major advantage to see things, to learn things to understand things on different levels in different ways!
Suddenly I could hear things from people that use to go right over my head for years!
It was the Total Feeling of Freedom to Fully Experience Life!
The problem was, I didn't know what this was or what exactly happened.
So I began the Most Powerful part of my journey and I began to ask every Spiritual Teacher I could find and talk to. It was completely intuitive. I just followed my gut instinct as to where to go, who to talk to, what questions to ask. And at each stop in my journey I learned what I needed to learn in order to understand the next learning on each stop in my journey!
I started out with my Pastor in Mountain View California. And he knew what I was going through and said he had gone through it when he was younger but only opened up a little bit for a short period of time and not as open as I was.
I went to a Sikh Temple where the men were kneeling on the left and the women were kneeling on the right. Someone walked up to me, he smiled and Congratulated me.
I went to a Japanese Buddhist Temple in San Francisco, I continued my Journey to the Berkley Psychic Institute. And they all seemed to say the same thing that Uncle George Naopi "The Big Kahuna" said in Hawaii. That I was a White Healer or a White Buddha. And that all I had to do was Open up and I would be able to heal people.
I needed someone to explain this to me, to guide me through whatever this thing was that I opened up to. Sure it was amazing but my religion, culture, nothing in my life prepared me for this!
And then it dawned on me, my girlfriend was a Laotian Buddhist. So I asked her to take me to a Laotian temple to find a Monk. Sure enough her family Monk from Laos had just moved to the Stockton California Laotian Temple.
And it was my Experience with Buddha Kham helping me through my Awakening that led to the Development of this course. Once again, to your Benefit.
Well, I went to Temple with my Girlfriend 2 or 3 times a week and I would stay for hours listening to Buddha Kham. Practicing everything he taught me. Almost every time I went there he would do some kind of spiritual healing.
This was the first time in my life that I fully and completely experienced actual energy or spiritual healing and was very conscious of it. Buddha Kham was the Best!
About the 10th time I went, Buddha Kham Did a Long Prayer for about 20 minutes or so. And then he tied the strings on our wrists and then he splashed this water with flowers and scents on me and my girlfriends head once again.
And after a few hours of being at the Temple we got up and left. All I Know is every single time I left the Temple I was so Happy and so Peaceful. It was a level of Joy you can't explain but only experience. It's the sole reason I kept going back to temple.
Well on the way home my girlfriend wanted to pull over to go to a restaurant. As we were eating we suddenly realized everyone in the entire restaurant was smiling at us and staring at us, the whole time, with the most peaceful smiles. And she looks at me and says, "Have you noticed every time we go to temple wherever we go after, everyone smiles at us and is so nice to us? And how people are drawn to us?" I realized that I had noticed this same thing and realized it was something Buddha Kham was doing to us...
And it hit me like a ton of Bricks what he was doing... Because of my years of meditation and Background in NLP, Hypnosis, etc. and something I learned in Huna that was similar to what Buddha Kham was doing but was no where near as Powerful, that allowed me to see what he was doing and how to do it!
Call it the Gift of Love, Joy and Bliss!
It's this gift that I pass on to my clients!
They suddenly realize it's not about techniques, it's about Opening up to a Greater Knowing, understanding of who she truly is within, the real Her!
They suddenly watch how women will walk up to them, start conversations and develop a greater rapport and relationship with who they truly are as a person within!
There's much more to this story but for now I will leave you with these words of Wisdom:
"Look within for the Kingdom of Heaven is within you!"
"Love truly is "The Answer!!"
"Looking forward I could not see how the stepping stones connect. But as I look back I can see very clearly how each stop on my path was another stepping stone to my Destiny and Purpose in life!"
Jacob "Stitch" Duran my former Coach & Cut Man
Notably one of my coaches, current Friend & Mentor, is the famous Jacob “Stitch” Duran, the #1 cut-man for the UFC (Ultimate Fighting Championship) & Top Ranked Boxing and World Champion Kick-Boxers, Who has also been in 5 block buster movies including 2 Rocky Movies!
I have over 41 Certifications in the Arts of Psychology, NLP, Ericksonian Hypnosis, Energy Healing and Consciousness, listed below! I am a Highly, Highly trained Personal Development coach and Communication Expert!
And a Life time of Kicking Ass, Facing my Fears and Overcoming some of the most Intimidating Challenges that a person can go through!
"Step into your Power and Live an Awesome Life!"
I was also Licensed by the State of California’s Athletic Commission as a Professional Trainer and Corner Man for Professional Fighters.
I am an:
Master Ericksonian Hypnotherapist
Master Practitioner in Time Line Therapy
Master Practitioner in (HNLP) Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology
Trained and Certified in Huna, Reiki, Pranic Healing, and Energy Medicine
Trained and Certified by Tony Robbins – Sales Training, NAC, NLP
Some, but not all of my top trainers include:
Tony Robbins – Robbins Research International
Dr. Bob Bays, PHD. – Professor of Psychology of Syracuse University
Dr. Krazner, – A.I.H American Institute of Hypnotherapy
Dr. Tad James, M.S. PHD. – Advanced Neuro Energetics
John Overdurf, C.A.C. – Owner/Trainer Neuro-Energetics
Buddha Kham – Head Monk of All the Northern California Laotian Temples (R.I.P.)
Buddha Chandy - Head Monk of Richmond California Laotian Temple (R.I.P.)
Dr. Richard Bandler – Creator of NLP
– Mike Kollin
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