Do you want to know why men Just Don't Get it? Because they are Neurologically wired Differently.
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It's Extremely Challenging for the Male Brain to Understand how to Love, Communicate with and actually Understand women, but it's very possible for men by Opening up to their Right Brain & Then Love, Communicate and Understand women. Yes! I teach men how to Open up to their Right Brain and Communicate from this space.
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Yes, I posted that 2 times on purpose!
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Speak the Internal, Mentally Stimulating & Emotionally Fulfilling Language of Love to her Heart!
Men!! It's all about Emotional Fulfillment in the Hidden Right Brain Indirect language!!!
Why Men just don't get it, doesn't have to be Anymore.
Yes, I teach men how to Open up to their Right Brain and Learn how to speak the "INTERNAL" Mentally Stimulating & Emotionally Fulfilling Language of Love that Truly Touches your heart and fills you up Emotionally with his words!
I literally teach men how to open up to their right brain and speak the "Internal" Mentally Stimulating & Emotionally Fulfilling language of Love & Deeper Understanding so he can fill your heart with his Love!!
This is What Love is to a women! But he doesn't know what this is! Yet!
"At least this is THE DOORWAY to leading her into her heart"
It is all about Mental Stimulation & Emotional Fulfillment through this hidden Right Brain, "Indirect" Language! This is Love!
So why men just don't get it is a neurological process.
And here is where it Starts.
The Female Corpus Callosum has more nerves than the male's Corpus Callosum. All that means is the nerve bundle between the Left and Right Hemispheres, the left brain and right brain, of the woman's has more Connections, connecting the Right brain with the Left brain. This is the Corpus Callosum.
So in the female, she has more neurological connections between the 2 hemispheres. Which means she can shift from right brain to left brain super, super fast. It's like a super highway between her hemispheres. So she can be logical in one moment, then in her right brain, Emotional / Creative another moment.
Now let's contrast that with a male's neurological wiring between his hemispheres.
His Brain does not have as many Neurological connections between hemispheres. So what that means is, he is a lot slower when it comes to shifting from the logical brain to the Right, Creative brain. And I mean a lot slower. It's not impossible, but it does take a while for him to focus on art or music as in playing an instrument for at least 10 to 15 minutes.
In fact, in High school Choir, I noticed that after about 15 minutes of warming up and singing, I would suddenly feel great and open, I was so relaxed and could breath deeply and was calm inside. But I didn't know why. And whenever I walked out of choir, I felt Great for most of the day.
NOTE: Now here is the Good news!!!
One of the Core Pieces of my course is that I #1 Teach men how to Open up to their Right brain through a series of Right Brain Techniques which opens him up! This is the Game Changer!
Yes, Opens him up in a way he is actually accessing his Emotions and Feelings and sensing the world around him so he can be "In TUNE!!!" Yes, he can learn how to do this!!
#2 These Exercises also help him to be able to switch pages a lot faster. He needs to practice this a lot daily to improve speed and awareness, etc..
You know what I mean. You know when you say, "Keep up, I'm on a new page, etc."?
See, women can switch from left hemisphere to Right Hemisphere Fast, Instantly! But he, well... he can't... but!
The Left Brain, called the Male Brain, is the Logical, Rules, Structure Communication Processor! So men process communication / Words literally through Logic & Rules.
Thus words to him are logic. No feeling or sensing at all.
And this causes the "Either Or" mentality! The "Right or Wrong" - "Black or White" mentality. He literally can't think outside of the box, rules or structure that others have laid down for him. He can only follow rules and do what he is told while he is in this part of his brain.
When a Male Opens up to his right brain he suddenly can think for himself and see the world in a much more Expansive and Powerful Right Brain way.
This is The "And & Both" Mentality!
The Right Brain, called the Female Brain, is the Creative, Emotional processor. This processor processes communication through the Emotional / 5 senses Processor. Thus she feels communication. Words become Emotions to her, not him.
In other Words, Words are Literally Processed through Feelings and senses. Thus the Words go through this Filtered Processor of 5 senses and feelings and thus she is Literally Feeling the words he or she is speaking!
Words are Processed through Feelings / 5 Senses = Feeling / Emotions.
* Remember, women are both left and Right brain.
He can learn how to develop this ability to be able to keep up and notice when you have switched. It will take a real committed effort on his side, but after time he will get faster and faster and faster because he is developing these neurological connections and getting better and better at it!
#3 This will also increase his ability to understand your language and your communication and also be able to communicate to you on that Deeper, Mentally Stimulating and Emotionally Fulfilling level which you so desire!
It also allows him to see Body Language a lot better and will automatically know what to or not say or do. Because he will be able to clearly see it!
And all of this gives him Greater Social Power by understanding and seeing Social skills a lot better!
So yes, you can be on the same page!
What was happening, was I opened up to my creative right brain. And this is when you are relaxed, calm and open. And for most of the day, after Choir, I would really feel close, emotionally, to & with, and get along with my Girlfriend because unconsciously I was in my Right Brain. And She so Loved this as women do Love it; when a guy can open up to this part of his brain and connect with himself physically and emotionally, because it allows & helps her to open up to her right brain and feel her body and tune into the world around her as well and feel life again.
One way I like to think of it, is helping each other to Relax, open up and simply let go and feel ourselves and connect with ourselves.
The reason I say that, is because a lot, ok, "ALL" of my clients ask me, "What do I do to her?" And my answer always is, "NOTHING!!!" It's what you do to yourself that counts.
And what I mean is, I teach men how to Open up and connect with themselves in a way that Grounds them Mentally and Emotionally, so he can feel "Emotionally Grounded, Down to Earth and Be Calm & More Aware." This Makes him more of a man too!
The Right Brain ads Emotions to his Left Brain. It's like Adding Fuel to the Powerful Ferrari. Without the Fuel that Powerful Ferrari engine can't even be turned on. Power On.
This allows his energy to flow and his emotions to Open Up!
The Challenge is, that word/phrase is a very foreign Phrase to men. Men are like, "What? Emotionally Grounded? Emotionally Fulfilled? Bonding Emotionally? Um. ok...??
These are foreign, odd and strange terms to the male Brain. I hated it when My step mom would say, "You need to bond with your father!" I was like What??? Ugh!!!
What's worse is men may think, "Oh, I know what that means as they are in their Left, Logical Brain Thinking it means B. when you mean A.. And this is a huge problem between men and women.
We are not on the same page. We are speaking english or whatever language you speak, but we are processing the same words in 2 different parts of our brain and this changes the meaning drastically. Thus we are not saying or understanding the same thing at all. k
She's saying A. out of her Right Brain and he takes those same words and processes them through his logical left brain and thus it changes the meaning and sadly he really believes you are saying B. When you are saying A.!!!!
So it's important for him to learn how to open up to his right brain.
And this helps you, to be around a man who is Down to earth, Mentally and Emotionally grounded, so you can feel more Grounded, Down to earth and Experience more Emotional Fulfillment with him in an Open, Relaxing, Natural way!
So men have to be taught in a very specific way in order for his brain to even understand what I am Talking about! But he can learn this! And the Major part of this Discovery was figuring out how to teach it to his brain in a way he could eventually understand Right Brain Processes.
Trust me!!! It's HARD!!!!!!! I put my heart and soul into this effort!!! And he has to put his heart and soul into this Effort! Because that's what it takes! He can learn this and very very very well...
Men Can Learn how to Open Up!
So You say something out of your right brains processor and he processes it through his logical left brains processor which completely changes the meaning to the exact same words. And thus there is the Problem. You are both speaking 2 completely different languages, processed in 2 completely different parts of your Brain!
And this is what causes the most heartache and loss of Love no matter how much you Love each other! But we can Transform him! We can teach him! We can Rebuild him and turn him into the $6 Billion Dollar Communication Man Of Romance, Love and Emotional Fulfillment! OH! And Mental Stimulation. Let's not forget that....
Love & Understanding are just around the Corner!
Left Brain Processor vs. Right Brain Processor
Ok, so what is going on between the left and right brains processors?
The left brain, which is called the Male Brain, for both men and women is the Logical Processor. Meaning it literally processes through logic. It also uses the word "Literally" because this is the Brain that is about being literal. So if a man is saying "Literal" at least in that moment he is in his Logical male left brain; or if it's a woman in her left brain.
So when I say male brain or female brain, I usually mean left processor or right processor, not a man or woman necessarily.
Now what is different between the left brain and or the right brain for a man or woman?
Well, for now, the Left Brain is the Direct brain. It Literally means what it says. So when a man is in his left brain, which he is almost all the time, especially when he is talking, he means what he says.
Another way of saying this is, A Mean's A. That's it! There is no deeper meaning! So yeah, this is the Shallow Brain.
But the Logical Male Brain has a very Powerful Purpose to keep the family alive and fed.
See, in the caveman era he couldn't screw around so he had to be direct. There were not grocery stores or restaurants or 7-11's or trucks or high powered hunting rifles. He had to walk for days to get a deer or whatever they hunted back then. And then he had to get it home as soon as possible to feed his wife and children. This is why the left brain was designed to be direct and see things for the way there were. A mean's A.
Whereas the Right Female Brain, is "Literally" the Indirect Brain. It does not mean what it says, at least directly. It communicates in a rich, descriptive language in symbology. It's a much more in depth way of communicating. When a woman, or anyone who is in their right brain says A., they "DO NOT MEAN A!" They mean something more in depth.
I can hear 100,000 men Screaming Right now!!! Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!
Now ladies, I know you might, ok, you do find it unbelievably hard to understand or relate to this, but most men, most of the time Go Batshit, Crazy Insane when you say to him "Well, yeah, I said A. but I didn't mean A. I meant B!" hahahahahaha.,.. Because they, men can't do it, process in this way, but he can learn!
I Love it when, I am at the grocery store or some place out in public, and a lady or girl says something to her boyfriend or husband. Especially when I can tell she is saying A. but means B. and he is in Agreement, stating how he understands her, but he thinks you ACTUALLY Mean What you are saying, A.. he's agreeing with A. not B. what you really mean. And then later or the next day he says, "But you Said A.!!!" And she says, "Well yeah, but I didn't mean A. I mean't B...." and he just blows a fuse and calls you or her Crazy!!! Hahaha....
Well men, if you are reading this, believe it or not, but there is actually a real way to actually Learn & Understand this Hidden, Right Brain, Female's Language. Yes Ladies, it is a hidden language you have been speaking for years, so to you it's easy & seems obvious. But to the man who isn't right brained and doesn't process through the "Internal" "Indirect way, it can be a bit challenging to say the least.
Ok it's impossible for him to have a clue you are saying something other than A.!! hahahahaha.... At least until he takes my course!!
Love, Communication & Understanding is what this course is about!
Yes, it does take real effort, Time and Patience, but men can learn it!
Now the left brain is all about Rules, Structure, logic and singular focus. Yes ladies, his brain is wired to be very, very good at locking on to 1 single thing and blocking out the world.
Now that comes from hunting and fighting wars. He had to be an expert aim to feed the family and hunt. So over thousands and thousands and thousands of years, he developed this very linear way of being, including Linear Communication, for survival of the family! And it's paid off very well...
We are Evolving
So you know when he is watching his favorite movie or his favorite sport or Football game? And he is totally focused on it? This is the way men get the MAXIMUM Joy out of Life! See Visual Cortex Below:
Well the Female Brain is the Opposite. You Love to Open up and Feel the World, See, Hear and Feel, Taste and Smell... And I can teach him how to do this so it makes it easier for you to enjoy the world in this way with him. But!
When he's Watching Football, just let him be a Man and Enjoy the World the way he enjoys it during these moments. Because trying to distract him or get his attention is only going to make him miserable and thus make both of you miserable.
It's like when women say it's ladies night out or tea time or such. Women like to enjoy Female Energy and Open up, to the right brain processing, and let the energy just simply flow and enjoy the relaxing experience of opening up. So it wouldn't be fair for him to take that away from you.
Ok, more about the left, logical processor!
It's really simple! No seriously it is. If you have ever said, "UGH!! MEN!!! They are so surface level!!! You Mrs. are Correct. The Logical brain was designed to be surface level.
See, the left brain is all about Rules, Structure and Organization. It literally organizes our language. It's also about seeing / viewing things in a black or white manner. No fuzzy, kind of sorta maybe possibly.
Now another process of the Male brain is it's Direct and functions in a linear fashion, which means his language, form of communication & thinking is very, very simple. It goes in a line.
If I haven't already stated, Linear simply means to go in a line!
Linear = Line / ar. It's a word that was developed so it could flow in the english conversation. It's easier to say "The Linear language" vs. The language that goes in a line." Or "He is a linear guy" vs. "He thinks in terms of lines."
It literally goes in a step by step process like in a line, like on a football field, going up and down the numbers. This is why most male sports have lots of lines and rules and structure!
It goes like this. "So first I am going to talk to Steve, 2nd I am going to find out what it costs, 3rd, then, later, after, but before, furthermore, etc."
So basically the way a male communicates is super, super simple. (Yeah I know, go ahead and laugh ladies.) Now remember, this was developed to Feed the family. To be Direct, to go hunting, not screw around and bring the meat home to feed the wife and kids. So it very much has a higher purpose.
See, you have to understand, up until very, very, very Recently in the New, Very New, Modern world, we didn't have Grocery Stores or High Powered Hunting Rifles or Farms or Dairies or 7 - 11's or anything like that at all. We didn't even have Freezers or ice or Refrigerators.
So men had to constantly hunt. And there was no time to grab ass or play around or goof off or go into poetry time! You had to stay alert, pay attention because of the Dangers of other Deadly animals and be aware of where the animals to hunt are, etc..
And this Forced him to use his Right Brain to literally be able to Smell Danger from 100's of yards away or sense danger from a mile away to have a heightened sense of hearing and seeing either danger or an animal from miles away in the thick brush etc.
Note: YES!!! Cavemen & mean up to about 1930's, actually were very, very Right Brain & "In Tune" with their 5 senses, Seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, taste; as well as left brain. He was much more integrated than the modern male.
The Modern Male is a bit Disconnected. And this makes her, the female around him or in his life feel disconnected and gives her tremendous anxiety. This is one of the first thing we will work on, to get him more Grounded, Connected to himself so she can feel a sense of being whole and complete and connected.
The Cavemen was very, very Emotionally Grounded, down to earth and was very much "In Tune" with his Bodies Radar Systems and thus nature and his surroundings, and could feel and sense, smell, etc. very, very well. And this turns on the Females Mating system, because it tells her mating system that this guy is aware and thus a good mate to mate with!!
An Aware Caveman triggers her mating system because an Aware or Self Aware man can notice the subtleties of life and colors and sounds, tones, tempo, rhythm and subtle body language, etc.. Thus the "Tuned In" / Self Aware man can see who is being congruent and who is not. Thus he can get ahead in life! Because he can see, hear, feel and notice the subtleties.
This Self Awareness makes her feel safe and comfortable.
But the modern world doesn't require this anymore, Especially at the Lower Levels of society and rank and Financial status. So the Modern male can hide behind his logic and avoid feeling and sensing any kind of danger using his right brain's 5 senses. The Modern male can make this thing called money simply by using his Left brain. And thus by default and laziness the modern male is very left brained and very rarely uses his right brain and thus is not "In Tune!"
This is what women mean when they say, "What happened to all the Good men?" Well ladies they have been turned off!
The Lower 90% + Males can simply do as they are told and follow the Rules the other males set for them! They will never truly succeed or make a lot of money or move any where near the top but they can fit in, follow and survive. Not Attractive to women's mating systems.
But, any 1 of these men can learn how to Lead Himself which is what a leader truly is! And this is what it means to lead a woman. Not by going external, rather, Internal, by leading yourself.
Men: When you are "Internal" Connected from your Left Brain to your Right brain, this triggers her to mate with you! This is a Good mate!
Remember, men can develop this way of processing and being and being "In Tune" and move up the ladder of society, the military and the corporate world. Anyone can actually. It takes work and practice and developing.
The men who grow business's successfully and move up the ladder of power in society are those who develop their Right Social Brain much more than the others. Because this is the way you can read, understand and communicate with a wider, broader range of people in any society. And this triggers the female's mating system; thus a better mate for her and her children.
And remember, he didn't have a 4X4 Super Truck to drive over the rough, tough, IMPOSSIBLE Terrain that he had to tackle every single day with his feet and legs alone. He had to walk for miles and miles which may take him hours to an entire day, then climb up a hillside or up on a tree and with his sharpened stick, Hope and pray a deer or animal walked underneath where he was at. And he would still have to wait there for hours and hours... And Hopefully drop down with his sharpened stick. Hunting was Tough!
So this took up a lot of time!
So he had to be direct with his fellow cavemen and this was the brain he developed to feed the family and the linear, male language, included. Thus the male brain tends to be very direct, especially in his younger years. Thus to the point. To him this is the correct way.
So the way to talk to a Caveman, I mean your Husband, is to say,
"Well, first I have to do this, then I want this done, 3rd, we need to go to the grocery store and get this and this and this, then, after that we still have to get this done and that done." This is how he understands and processes communication.
Yes ladies, it's that simple.
In fact, I was at the Toyota Dealership and I spoke with a sales lady there and after I explained this to form of communication, she started to laugh. So I asked, "What's so funny?"
Well, here's what she told me! She said, "Well, for at least a year, I couldn't figure out why men wouldn't buy from me. I would give them The Best Price in the state. I would lower the interest Rate, I would give them more options, Everything!!! And then sure enough I would see them a few months later in the same vehicle. And they paid more money, more down, higher monthly payment, higher interest, everything and sometimes they got less options, etc.. It really blew my mind they would spend more time going to another dealership and pay more money for either the same exact car or sometimes less."
She stated, "I couldn't believe it was simply because I was a woman. There had to be more to it. I mean they were paying a lot more money for the exact same car. So then 1 day out of frustration, I simply did what you said. I said to a client, "First we have to take a look at the car, then we have to take it for a drive. 3rdly we have to talk about the specific options you want in a car. Then we can sit down and go over the costs, monthly payments and interest rates. And Finally we can sign the paper work and I can hand you the keys and the Car is yours!"
She stated, "I massively improved my sales to men from that point forward. I was blown away how simple and easy it was to sell to men! Just give him steps to follow!! Hahahahaha..."
Development of the Right Brain
Now women on the other hand didn't get the excitement or thrill of the constant hunt. Because hunting can be very, very dangerous and also very Rewarding Emotionally in an Exciting and Powerful way!
So after cleaning and cleaning and cleaning and picking berries and picking berries and fruit and doing the day to day stuff, year after year, after year, women got Freaking bored to tears.
So, women Developed a Much Richer, much more Developed and much more descriptive language in their Right Brain. And thus have a larger, more developed Right Brain. And this is where I come in to teach men how to communicate in this rich and delicious language or Romance, Love and the Flavors of Life!
The Right brain became very adept at noticing the slightest of differences in colors and smells and sounds and feelings, flavors, tastes, etc.... And this has tremendously added to the richness of life.
And thus the birth of Descriptive language and words came to light. In other words, instead of a man just saying, "I have an Awesome Truck." She might say, "Yes, he has a Big, Powerful, Bright, Red, Shiny, Ford, 4X4 Truck!" So a man may use 1 descriptive word, but a woman will use a minimum of 3 to 5 or more for the same exact sentence or thing.
Hint: Guys, this is the beginning to Romance, turning her on and Mental stimulation. I go much, much more in depth in my course on how to Love & Romance a woman from Your Heart.
True Life Story First: When I sat down with my mother and taught this to her, after a few hours she got really really quite. I explained how the right brain and left brain process differently. And I explained how the Mating systems are connected to 2 different parts of our brains and how mother nature made us differently for Romance, Love and Communication.
I Explained to her how men Experience Love. And that men unconsciously express their Love in this Male, Linear, External way, because to him this is Love. So this is why he expresses his Love in this way.
But, the Problem is: "This is NOT the way women Receive Love!"
She got really really quiet. And, I just paused and there were a few minutes of pure silence...
After a few more minutes, she finally spoke and said, "So your Father did Love me?" And I said, "Yes, with all his heart... you just couldn't receive it in the way he offered it..."
To this day I remember the yelling and crying... She just wanted to be Loved, truly, Deeply Loved.
When I was 20 or 21, I was visiting my dad. And I was walking down the Driveway... and out of nowhere he cried out, "If God is so Great, Then why did he make it so hard to Love a woman!!!! I did Everything I could to Love your Mother!!!! No Matter what I did it only made her angrier!!"
That was the first time I saw my father Cry out loud. To this day I have this vivid memory in my mind. And to this day I cry every time I remember this... Without realizing it at the time, it was this very moment that Drove me for decades to find The Answer to why men and women can't Love each other.
If I could only go back in Time to teach this to my Father. But I can't. He's gone... But I can reach you and I can help you!
This is why I do this work.
So take a look at the way women developed this richer, more in depth right Brain language. Women did a lot of things over and over and there was very little excitement, at least in the Caveman days. I mean you can only clean & pick berries so much before you get bored to tears.
And thus the Birth of a Richer, more Descriptive language was Born.
To the Caveman a berry is a berry. But a woman might say, "No that's a Raspberry." And then the caveman Grabs a berry that is blue and calls it a berry. But again she says, "No, that's a Blue Berry." All the white irritating him, cuz a damn Berry is a damn berry! Then he might Grab a berry that is darker and calls it a Berry. And she says, "No, that's a Black Berry!"
Well to Cavemen, they are all just damn Berries. Why do you have to complicate it so much?
So the right brain began to notice the slightest of subtleties in colors and hues and shapes. Women began to create such an amazing way of talking and expressing that over time it simply went passed the males brain.
There is such a deep form of communication created that when 2 people are truly tuned into each other they can truly begin to almost read each others mind by the slightest body language, the slightest glimmer in each others eyes or even a feeling, literally. And that's what this course is about. To help you learn how to open up to each other and communicate with each other and be in tune with each other so you are not just talking, you are not just having sex, you are not just making love, You are Powerfully & Passionately Opening up to a Spiritual Level of Knowing! "Oneness"
Now, most women beg for men to simply be in tune enough to even understand her when she is simply talking to him, in what she thinks is direct communication. In this course, we are going to take it way past this!
When I was a younger Man, I simply did not believe there was a color Fuscia. I thought it was a fake made up color that didn't exist. I mean it looked exactly like Pink! I couldn't tell the difference at all. To me, there was no difference at all.
I thought it was women just being airy fairy, making stuff up. Because to men, the female language sounds like it's play time make up stuff time. But in fact the female language is a very in depth, very colorful and absolutely meaningful form of communication you simply can not reach or understand by being Logical.
Well, years later in art class I remember the teacher hold the color scale with pink and Fuchsia right next to each other and there actually is a difference. If I remember right, Fuchsia has a bit of purple in it.
The Right Brain is what has taken the Human Race out of the Jungle, out of the Caveman Era and into the modern world, Where I would Like to Believe we are almost about to Step Bravely into. Into a much Greater Understanding of one another with True Love & Real Understanding of one another instead of Logically Judging each other Harshly!
Any man or woman who takes my course Absolutely will shift into Higher Level of Love, Communication & Understanding. There is No Question about this!
Ok, so let's get to some every day stuff first and then maybe to some more in depth, pleasurably romantic stuff soon enough.
Ok, so you know how when your husband comes home and you ask him a simple question over and over and over and he finally flips out? hahaha...
So in walks your husband from a long days work. And you merely say, "How was your Day Honey?" And by now I am sure you have learned this usually doesn't turn out so well... In fact, usually your Caveman blows his lid at the mere thought of this question... well here's what's going on.
He comes in the door and you ask him, "How was your day?" And he Responds, "Oh, it was fine or it was ok or it was good, or Great, or Awesome, Amazing" or any single one of these words at a time!
So let's say he responds with, "Oh, I had a good day!" Well you merely ask him again, "Well, how was your day?" And he kind of looks at you like, "Are you deaf, I just told you?" In fact, I have actually heard men say this to their wives....
When I was in high school, I had the opportunity to live with my football coach, "Wild Bill" and his family. Well, 1 day, the exact scenario actually happened, for like a week or longer... hahaha...
Now this guy is a Big Guy! He's like 6'2" and about 275 pounds.
And his wife innocently asks him, "How was your day Honey?" And he smiles, "Oh, it was ok...." And she says, "Oh, ok..." And you can see in her eyes that she was a bit lost or wasn't satisfied with that answer...
So another day he comes home and again she asks him, "How was your day Honey?" And he looks at her again and musters a smile, "Oh, it was ok, you know, just like yesterday..." And she is a bit perturbed at this point. But she is patient...
So another day goes by and she asks him when he comes home from work, "How was your day honey?" And he is mildly irked at this point. No, not because he had a bad day at all. In fact when he walked into the house, he was actually a bit chipper and had a smile on his face. It was because every day she keeps asking this question...
Well, now at this point he says, "Well, you know, it was ok, it was fine." And me and his son were smirking because we knew the fireworks were about to happen... Hahahaha...
So of course, she presses. "Well How was it?" with a bit of push in her voice. And he kind of gets out with a mild whine, "Well, it was ok, it was fine, you know!" And she pushes some more... and asks again, "Well how was it?" And he's on the verge, the verge of blowing his lid, but manages to hold it in... And he says, "Well, I just said, it was a good day, it was fine, not good, not bad, just a normal day." And she is a bit disappointed and she kind of turns away and says, "Oh, Ok" with down tone in her voice.
(Now here's why? She literally can't understand this form of male communication. She needs a more in depth and descriptive form of communication in order to even understand what he is saying. Yes guys, Women "DO NOT UNDERSTAND YOU!!! AT ALL!!! Most women will say, "I feel like I am living with a stranger." You've heard that before haven't you?)
So the next day the Fireworks begin!! hahaha...
So in he walks, and Barry & I were on the couch waiting to see what happens, with smirks on our faces. In he walks and his wife in a very happy, upbeat tone, eagerly asks with enthusiasm, "How was your day Honey?" And he says in a positive tone, "Oh, it was good, it was a good day!" And she says, "Oh, ok..." And we think, huh? Maybe not today... but then it happens... She digs her heals in Deep with Determination and says, "So how was your day?" And he, with a bit more volume in his voice, pushing back, states, "I just told you, it was good, it was fine!" And she says, "Well, how was it?" And he yells, "It was fine, I just told you!!!!!!" And she yells back, "But how was it, what happened?" Now at this point, he simply blows his lid and Screams, "It was Fine!!! Not good Not bad!!! Like any other day!!!!" And she yells, "What does that mean?????"
Now he, this Big Man, literally spins in circles and screams, "It doesn't mean anything!!!!! Not everything has to have a God Damn Deeper Spiritual Meaning!!!!!!" And she says, "Oh, Ok!"
Now at this point Barry and I are on the verge of busting out Laughing!!! hahahaha...
End Story: Begin Lesson...
So what happened?
You are going to absolutely Love this!
So here is what's going on!
The Male Brain is designed differently than the female's brain. Now the male brain is "Literally" the surface level brain. So yes, again ladies the male left brain was designed to be surface level and to say what it means, which means, "A means A". That's it. Period. And the left brain does not look for a deeper meaning at all.
And this is the beginning of where men and women get mixed up in communication.
Now here's why. There are a few things going on here!
The Male Brain is not looking for a Deeper meaning, especially in Communication or with words. It's the Direct Brain, literally meaning it is direct and says what it means. To the Male brain this is the way it is supposed to be and is considered Proper communication and the respectful and proper way to interact with others! But to women... not so much!
This by the way is the worker, business brain. So when a construction worker is hauling 300 pounds of dirt or rock or whatever in a wheel barrel and his buddies, co-workers are in the way he yells out, "Get the Hell out of the way you idiots!!!!!" You have to be direct when you are struggling to move heavy stuff.
Now in the female world this would be considered to be rude. But to men, especially in the work force as in heavy lifting, digging, hard labor, this is just every day normal work place talk. Because You don't have time to mess around, you have to get shit done! Period!!! "OUT OF MY WAY!!!"
So no time to use fancy polite talk.
In a lot of labor jobs, you have to use Brut force, which is the LEFT BRAIN!!! The Direct Brain. The push energy! Thus they are very direct & yes, pushy!
PG-13 Sex Education
The Male Energy is the Push Energy!
The Female Energy and way is the Opposite, it is the Open, Receiving Energy.
Note: The Male Energy is the Linear, External, Push Energy.
The Male Language is the Linear, External, Push language
The Male Penis the Linear, External Push Organ, literally!
The Female Energy is the Open, Receptive, Internal, Expansive energy.
The Female Language is the Open, Receptive, Internal, Expansive Language.
The Female Vagina is the Open, Receptive, Internal Expansive Organ, Literally.
Yes, our Mating system and our Communication system are built on and use the same platform.
Ladies and Gentlemen we experience and understand the world the way we are wired.
You have to understand, that the way you see, hear and feel and experience life is "Literally" the complete opposite of the way they experience it!
So saying men are dumb or women are dumb, literally, is a dumb thing to say! They are merely experiencing the world differently than you! It's just different.
Men Experience the world Externally and women Experience the world Internally. This is why we can both be side by side, looking at the very same view and seemingly having the same experience, and have 2 totally and completely different Experiences. And then on top of that we communicate & express those experiences in 2 completely different ways through 2 different brain processors and also communicate and express those same exact experiences in 2 completely different languages!
Do you see a Problem here???
No Worries! This is what we fix here at MGK International. Instead of it being a problem, we can put you both on the same page, experiencing the world in the same way and communicate and express it in the same language so all of a sudden we can actually communicate and understand each other in a way that we can have very, very similar experiences, at least similar enough to connect with each other.
For example: When a man goes out to the beach or the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco and looks out to the sunset, he LOOKS OUT to the sunset. He looks at the details and goes from left to right, up to down and see's the individual pieces.
Whereas she is standing right next to him on the Golden Gate Bridge and she Opens Up Wide and Receives the images as 1 Big Image. She literally dilates her pupils wide open and also her pupils pull apart a millimeter or 2 and she see's, receives the Bigger picture.
The picture, literally, from her experience comes to her!!! She Receives the image or sunset whereas he looks out to the sunset!!!!
In fact she may and usually says, "When I take this image inside it fills me up within emotionally." Guys, re-read that!!! Read that!!! She literally experiences it as if the image of the Beautiful sunset comes towards her and enters her and fills her up "Literally!!!"
Now here's the problem. Most men take this direct worker mind into social situations because they don't know any better way to communicate. No, not all men but a lot of men; especially men under 50 or so. And this is why these men either don't get ahead in life or they don't have much choice of work outside of the Hard Labor jobs, etc.. or doing what they are told.
So a lot of men, even men in Modern Business use this Left, Linear, to the POINT form of Communication in Social situations. Because most modern Careers are very, very Linear, computerized carriers. In fact the Majority of my clients are very logical, Left Brain computer types with careers in this type of field.
So these men rely on rules and structure for social situations. Which is all left brain. They can't help it. Now remember, the left brain is the analytical, science, worker brain for both men and women. But women know when to shift into the right social brain for social situations.
The Right Brain is the Social Brain. And this is the Brain you should use and process with in social situations!
Now let's define Social Situations.
A social situations is any situations in which you are to socialize. So a Business party is definitely a social situation. A party is a social situation. A baseball game. Hanging out at a Coffee shop like Starbucks is a social situation. Having friends over for dinner is a social situation.
Now here's the challenge. Most men use their Worker, Logical, Linear Business Brain and bring that into Social situations. And thus they can't seem to get along with people at parties! And they suffer from Anxiety and thus they have to use Alcohol to numb themselves to feel comfortable at parties.
Most men have Tremendous Anxiety in Social Situations.
Now here is a very, very common situation with the majority of men. They feel very, very, very uncomfortable in social situations. Now here's why.
Men and some times women and especially a lot of computer dot com workers will bring the linear brain into the Party. But there's a problem!
The reason people go to parties, clubs and most social situations is to Let their Hair down and relax and Open up!!!! To their right social brain.
So here you are at a Party or social situation and you are enjoying yourself and your friends are happy too and everyone is finally loose and relaxed and just enjoying the experience; from their right brain.
And in comes Mr. Linear! Ugh!!!!!!! Noooooooooo...
Now Mr. Linear is Analyzing everything you are saying and dissecting you, your body language, your body movement, and analyzing every word you are saying and he's trying to be Mr. Perfect. And he ruins the Mood. I mean who wants to be Analyzed like a Lab Rat? Answer: Nobody!!!
And this linear way of being will force the conversation into a linear fashion and everyone will slowly, unconsciously shift over to their Logical, Rule Oriented Brains. And thus the vibe is blown Big Time!!!
So now everyone is suddenly serious and the conversation becomes a job like they or you are at work. And thus the ease and flow of the conversation is gone.
And everything is turned into The "Right or Wrong" Conversation.
So once again Mr. Logical Linear man Strikes again! Bamm!!!
And thus people in the group will find ways to bow out of the conversation. And suddenly Mr. Linear is feeling like nobody wants to talk to him. And he would be right.
The Good News is, it's not you per se that they dislike, it's your communication style. The Good News is, you can learn how to socialize in a more comfortable way!
So the reason you have anxiety or feel uncomfortable in social situations, parties, etc. is because of the way you are communicating, your body language and the way you are processing/ thinking in the moment. Again this can be shifted. So you can enjoy being in social situations.
It's a tremendous experience watching clients of mine shift from Mr. Linear to Mr. Open, Down to Earth social guy everyone wants to suddenly talk to and engage in Stimulating Conversations with.
Ladies Night Out! Or Tea time with the ladies.
Now, when I was in high school and my mid 20's, this whole idea of Ladies night out really pissed me off! I thought, this is just a Bullshit way for the women to go out and cheat and flirt with men, which I am sure it is to some extent. But!!! There is at least one real reason other than that.
When women get together for social time, its so they can be open to their right brain, loosen up, let go and enjoy the pleasure of Stimulating and Emotionally Fulfilling conversations and simply to just laugh, let go and enjoy the time spent with "Other Like Minded Ladies" who are also in their Right Brain; Open, Fluid, Playful and Natural.
Why? Because it's easier to be in your Right Brain when you are surrounded by other people who are also in their Right Brain. Now men have no idea about this at all.
What happens, is a male will come up to the group of women with good intentions, but is in his linear brain, irritating her. In fact he will powerfully be in his linear brain, because he is trying to impress you with how linear he can be, which forcefully sucks you out of your Enjoyable, Social Right Brain and forces you into your Logical, Analytical left brain, so she / you can process in this part of your brain simply to understand him, and thus kills the mood. And actually irritates you big time!! Ugh!!
Now here's why! The female Mating System is connected to her Right Brains Communication processor! Thus when you try to "Impress" her, talk about money, logic, cars, trophies, things you did in the past, etc. you force her out of her Right, Sensual, Emotional - Fun Brain which leads her to sex. And thus you literally disconnected her from her mating system and turned her off!!! And this gives her a headache, literally! So she needs to get away from you when you are in this part of your brain!
And this is what I teach men to do. I tell men, look, if you want women to enjoy being with you, then you have to learn how to open up to your right brain and learn how to communicate in the mentally stimulating and emotionally fulfilling right brain language so you can:
Release the Oxytocin!!!!
Now ladies, men have no idea what in the hell this means?
Guys, let me just say this! You want to get her high off of you? Then Release the Oxytocin!!! Cuz this makes her higher than a Kite! And she will fly high with you all night and day long!!!
This is the Most Powerful Drug / Attractant there is to the Female Mind!
Sadly, men, have no idea what I am talking about.
It's literally a drug that induces a Caffeine Like Rush into her brain that is more Powerful than Caffeine, smoother than Caffeine, happier and funner and a lot more enjoyable than Caffeine. And this is why women Talk, Talk, Talk, Talk!!! In Fact, it's so enjoyable it will lead her into the bedroom with you if you know how to release this into her brain.
So if you are a guy who can talk to her and talk, talk, talk, you are in demand!! And if you learn how to talk in the right brains language, you are going to be the guy all the girls want to talk to. And do other stuff to! hahaha... I mean With!!
When I was in high school, I think I was a junior, a friend of mine talked me into showing up to school at 7 a.m.. At first I was like, "What? No way!!! I'm sleeping in til at least 7:15 a.m.!!!"
He said, "Trust me, there's a lot of chicks on campus like at 6:45 a.m. or so... I said, "Why?" He said, "I don't know!" I said, "Why are they there, what are they doing?" He said, "I don't know, nothing. They just talk!" I said, "Why?" He said, "I don't know!"
So I said, "Ok, I'll see you about 7 a.m.."
So I showed up about 7 a.m. or so and he was already there staring at the girls from the bridge over the creek on campus. I said, "What's going on?" He said, "Nothing, they are just talking." Now it was only 7:05 at this point and there were already 4 or 5 separate groups of girls. And slowly more girls were showing up. Buy 7:15 there were about 100 girls on the quad.
We were like, "What are they talking about that's so exciting that gets them up at 5:30 a.m. to get to school before 7 a.m.?" So we just waited, watching them bounce around, laugh and giggle and talk faster and faster and faster and faster... So we decided to move closer and closer to listen in on what they were saying...
It sounded like normal chick gobbly gook Abstract Language that made no sense to us at all... so all of our detective work didn't pay off.
Our final assessment was that they came early to school to talk! Huh? Why not sleep in and enjoy sleep?
If only we knew that they were getting higher and higher and higher the more they talked... That the very thing they were doing was the very thing they were getting up super early for, Talking! Wow! Mind Blown!
Ladies, Please, please understand, men do not get this emotional head rush or high from simply talking! It's not part of our make up! And we don't know you like to talk for no reason other than to just talk.
Now, I do admit, now that I have learned how to talk in this way, life has become a lot richer, more fun and enjoyable. Who would have thought that talking was fun? And at times when the connection is right can be down right Exhilarating!!
So yes, a guy can open up to this part of his brain and can actually enjoy having Creative, Descriptive and very stimulating Conversation in the same or similar way that you do!
It's actually quite mind blowing to men when they begin to break through and begin to understand this and begin to enjoy this form of conversation!
So guys!!! Don't be in such a rush to have sex. She loves, loves, loves the Oxytocin simply from talking in a stimulating way!
Here's what he doesn't know:
Your Mating System is directly connected to your Right Brains, 5 Senses, Communication Processor!
So what does this mean?
It means he doesn't know that Communication "Literally" turns you on Sexually!!!
He also doesn't know that words literally give you Emotions & Feelings.
But then again, you didn't know he doesn't feel words the way you do, did you?
Yes, guys, Words Turn women on Sexually!! A LOT!! A LOT!!! A LOT!!!! But a Special set of words I call "Internal Language."
Haven't you noticed how much women talk about how "IMPORTANT" Communication is????
Because it Turns her on Sexually!!! And fills her Emotionally!!!
We are just now getting to the Juicy Stuff!!! And Yes, I mean Juicy!!
So guys, you know how women say things like "How important Communication is?" Well they don't mean proper communication as in 9th or 10th Grade Proper grammar or proper spelling or proper punctuation at all, ZERO!!!!
In fact, usually it's quite the opposite. Usually it's improper grammar, improper punctuation on purpose to emphasize an emotion or thought or feeling!!!
Now women, even young girls begin playing with words and spelling and communication and literally playing with words in different ways that are not correct in English class at all, but rather fun, artistic ways of Expression. It's called "Word Play!"
Now my friend Mark's Twin Daughters, Sarah and True, one day were using a word and they kept saying, "well it could mean this" "and it could mean this" "it could also mean that!" Right about at this point, Mark walks in and says, "What are you saying" And the girls repeat it and Mark gets mad and says, "Stop that, stop doing that." Now I am sitting there rather enjoying, partially laughing at the creativity of what they were doing with 1 word and giving it more than 5 different meanings. And when Mark got perturbed and upset, I actually laughed, because his brain was like "What? No, it has 1 meaning. So stop that!" (Male Brain, Singular focus, 1 meaning!)
Now the girls got quiet, holding in laughter and waited until he walked out and burst out laughing, then True said, "It could also mean this." And we all burst out laughing... (Sorry I don't remember what the word was.) So I eventually got up and explained to Mark what they were doing.
And technically "WHAT" they are doing is developing Language and Different forms of Expressive Communication. And they started doing it around the age of 8 or 9 years old & continue this on throughout their lives. Now boys simply don't do this at all. So guys, you are behind in this regard.
A Means A to a boy or man! Thus no development.
So this Hidden, Coded Language / form of Communication, Which I call "Crack The Female Code" is something females begin to develop at a very, very young age and get very good at by the time they are in their late teens to early 20's. And they continue to develop it as they get older as well...
Language becomes a very fun and rich experience once you learn how to play with the words and patterns hidden within the language.
Once you Crack The Female Code, life becomes fun to communicate and talk to and be with women. Life becomes richer all the way around because suddenly you begin to notice the Nuances & Subtleties of life everywhere from wine to foods to conversations to music, to movies, poetry, art, everything!
Now Guys, Remember, this form of communication also triggers a females Mating system and turns her on sexually just as powerfully as you Visually Watching a Porno Movie! Now here's why:
The Mating System & It's Higher Purpose!
Our Mating systems purpose.
Now our Mating systems, both men's and women's actually have a higher purpose!
Ok, so here is what is going on. This will help alleviate a lot of pain and suffering due to misunderstanding, which is what this is all about! The more you Come from a place of actually understanding the happier and more understanding you will be!
Ok, so the Male & Female's mating systems are both located in the lower Reptilian Brain, which I call the Caveman Brain because this is the Instinctual brain, the Fight or flight, Mating system Brain, which we used a lot in the Caveman era.
Now, the Females Mating system is looking for 1 thing when it comes to a mate. Her Mating System is looking for a male who is open to his right brain. And a male who has a broader range from left hemisphere logical processing all the way over to the right brains 5 senses, emotional Processing.
Why? Because a male who has a broader range of communication from Left Brain to Right Brain is a male who can understand and effectively communicate with a larger and wider / broader range of people. So why is this important to her mating system? Because a male who has a broader range of communication and can understand a greater number of people is more useful to the tribe. And thus he can help lead the Tribe or group better than someone who can't communicate with the majority of people in the tribe.
And what does this mean to her Mating system? Well remember, this has nothing to do with being consciously aware necessarily when it comes to our mating systems. In fact, they kind of over ride our logic or conscious awareness.
Her mating systems #1 Job is to reproduce children and find a mate who can provide food, safety, protection and better education or opportunity to get ahead in life so!!! So her children can 1 day grow up and reproduce healthy, smart, strong children who can also reproduce and provide for more children to reproduce as well.
A male who can communicate to a broader, wider group of people becomes a leader or a higher level and leads more people, thus he is taken care of better, has more money, greater protection, food, etc. because he is much more valuable to the Group or Tribe. Thus he is taken care of better and thus her children have More Food, Better Food, Better Education, More Protection, Greater Opportunities in Life, etc. etc. thus she has done her job by finding a mate who has a broader range of Right Brain Communication.
Guys!!! Did you read that? Right Brain Communication.
Thus the Male who Learns how to open up to his RIGHT BRAIN & Communicate in the Mentally Stimulating & Emotionally Fulfilling Right Brain Language "Automatically" Triggers her Mating system, Thus Melting her heart and turning her on POWERFULLY SEXUALLY!!!!
This is why any male who learns this form of Communication & Social Behavior Triggers the Female's mating system, especially is Social Communication.
Wake up Men! This is your Power of All Power!!! In Dating, Life, Business & any kind of Relationship!!
Social Behavior? Communication? What?
Men have no idea that "RIGHT BRAIN" Social Behavior and "RIGHT BRAIN" Communication actually triggers her mating system and Powerfully turns her on Sexually to mate with him.
But women are very very aware that it's all about Social Behavior and Social Right Brain Communication. That's why women are all about Social Behavior and activities.
Women for the most part very much understand that learning how to read social behavior, indirect body language, indirect communication and reading people is what it's all about.
See, a male who can gain more and more social connections is a male who is more likely to survive and thrive because if he loses a job or needs a place to stay or needs help for his family he is more likely to have friends who can help him get a job or help him feed his family, etc..
And this is why her mating system is "POWERFULLY" Turned on to a Male who is Open to his right brain!
The Problem is, men are born using their logical left brain and thus making social connections and moving ahead in life is very hard for them. Whereas women are born naturally using their Social, Creative Right Brain. And yes, of course women have very much also developed their left, logical brain. Unfortunately men for the most part almost never or very little, develop their right brain.
*** It's the Male Who Develops, Opens up to his Right Brain who truly Becomes the Leader and Social person who women are attracted to. He is also the one who gets the job opportunities, raises, etc. etc. and moves ahead in life! While all the other males are stuck but can't figure out why!
Sure, the other males, they may be stronger or smarter or more talented when it comes to sports or math or science. But the problem is, those are not the males who move ahead in life! Period.
Even if they did or do, there is still 1 major problem. Socially they are inept and this really irritates her, BIG TIME!!! It drives her nuts! And it's very embarrassing for her to be in public with him, but he sincerely doesn't understand what the Big Deal is.
NOTE: The Mating System / Lower Reptilian brains job is to keep us alive and to reproduce! Believe it or not, but this brain overrides our larger hemispheres when it comes to reproducing and also to keep us alive.
Client with Masters degree in communication
Now I had a client with his Masters Degree in Communications. He also had a Masters Degree in Architecture and Psychology. And he said to me, "Well, if it's all about Communication, then I should be Great with women."
Well, he was going through his 2nd divorce and losing a $5 Million dollar Home in the divorce.
So I said, "Well, if that were true, you wouldn't be here, going through a divorce for the 2nd time! See, I am not talking about Logical, Left Brain Communication as in Proper english, I am talking about Romantic, Mentally Stimulating Communication, the "Internal" Form of communication." He nodded quietly.
Now here is the deal. You have to remember, I am not talking about the Modern way of Survival at all.
See, the modern male can make $Millions of dollars and technically be great providers financially but not socially at all.
And this is where Modern Male Gets all Screwed up. He sincerely thinks it's about Money! And in a way, it is. But this will never satisfy her Mating systems need for Mental Stimulation & Emotional Fulfillment. And this is what my course is all about.
The modern male is not socially aware at all. Very very few men have any level of social awareness. And this makes her feel scared.
Please Remember. I am not saying that this is the way I want it, but rather this is the way her mating system is wired.
See, we as humans have a natural animal nature about us. If we deny this we end up empty, sad and alone and not Fulfilled at all.
We all want to Live Full and Complete and Meaningful lives together. And Now we can. Men & Women can learn to come from a place of actual and real understanding with each other.
Quick Note: Now for those of you who say "All, Every", that is not what I am saying at all. We are all different. I read a study that said that 90% of women are attracted to Masculine men and 10% of women are attracted to more feminine men, etc.
It also stated that 90% of men are attracted to feminine women and 10% Attracted to more Masculine women.
I also read that 10% of women are dominant and 90% not so dominant. IT also stated 90% of men tend to be more on the dominant side and 10% more on the submissive side.
For now since this is just a blog, my thought is that there is a full range of possibilities from far left brained to far right to everything in between. And different people have a wider ranger than others.
So there are variances, I know, trust me, I know. But this is a blog. Not a full course. So give me some leeway here.
What are words?
Men, Pay attention here, because this vital to Romance, Love, Communication & Every day Communication with your lady or any lady!
So ask yourself the question, and without thinking, answer it quickly, "What are Words?" Write it down now, say it out loud right now!! Actually write the answer or answers down on paper in a word or phrases, etc. before going any further.
Stop! Right now, Right down the answer without thinking. If you think, it doesn't count because we are going for the natural answer for you!
Now, back to the left and right brain.
The Logical Left Brain Processes words through Logic. That's it!
The Right Brain Processes Words through the 5 senses and thus give her Emotions or Feelings through Words. The Right brain is the 5 senses Processor.
The further you move over towards and into the Right Brain, the more you sense and feel. Meaning you literally see colors more vividly, you smell more intensely, you can taste the richness of foods much more in depth. You can feel the slightest of feelings and hear sounds in a much more richer way.
For example. Have you ever heard one of your favorite songs for the 100th time and thought, nah, not now... but then a day later or a few days or even a few hours later, that same song comes on and you are like WOW!!! This song is Awesome!!!
Well, the difference between those 2 times listening to it, is that 1 day you were further into your left, logical brain and thus not hearing the sound and words as in depth. Then the other day you are very much in your right brain and suddenly the sounds and tones and music is 10 times richer and much more enjoyable.
It's the same with food. One day the same exact dish is ok, but another day it is Amazingly delicious to the taste.
Ok, now follow this for a moment. So, when you are in your logical brain you are not Feeling words at all. But when you are in your Right Brain, The Emotional, 5 senses Processor, suddenly words become:
Words are Emotions
Now I have been doing this for over 25 years and have asked this question to women constantly. And invariably the majority of women will answer, "Well, words are Emotions or words are used to express your emotions or feelings, etc."
I have asked this same question to men for 25 years as well. And it's almost always, "Well, words are words. Words are used to talk and discuss things." One time I had a date with me when I was working with a client. And when he said, "Words are words. Words are used to talk." She literally turned to him, grabbed her chest and with the sincerest earnest and concern proclaimed!!! "NO!!! Words are Emotions!!!"
He looked at me and said, "Really?" I said, "Yes, to the Right Brain and women most of the time, YES!!!"
And this is where men and women fall apart when it comes to Communication, Understanding, Love and Romantic, Passionate Experiences together.
Deeper Communication is done through an Emotional Experience.
Now what do most men do when they are on a date or when they are trying to Express their Love to a woman?
They go Ultra "Linear" which means they go deep, deep into their Logical Processor and Express / Communicate their Love to her in the External Male way, which literally Shuts her down. It forces her to go into her Logical Processor in order to Understand your Language and thus Disconnects her from her Emotional, Heart, Right Brain which is where her Mating System is connected!!!!
And what's worse, is men try to "IMPRESS" women. This is a left Brain Process, it's literally the Male, External Push Energy as if you are pushing her from your forehead to her forehead. And I absolutely know every single woman reading this right now knows Exactly what I am talking about.
You know when you are on a romantic date and you get a headache or get bored to tears or irritated???
Now, let's remember, her mating system is connected directly to her right brains processor. Thus learning how to #1 Open up to your right brain is vital to help her go into her right, romantic, Emotional brain to receive your Romantic Love. #2 You need to learn how to speak the right brains language in the way that makes her feel good.
Here's what I mean.
When men speak in the logical external brain, it's the black and white language. The rules and structure and organization brain. It has nothing to do with social behavior or Romance at all.
So when you are speaking from your left, logical, monotone brain, ummmm, well that's what she's feeling. She's feeling black, white, no color, no creativity, no romance at all. No Feeling...
And what's worse, most men speak in this forehead, nasally way that is very uptight and very monotone, not expressive at all. Thus she is processing this in her emotional brain and it's making her feel uptight, stressed and monotone. I mean who likes music with 1 note throughout the entire song? Nobody!
And this forces her into her Linear, logical Brain, which gives her a headache.
Technically what is happening, is his eyes, the pupils are very small & Close together. This is how you know someone is in their logical brain, including women too. When someone's pupils are dilated, meaning big and open and they pull apart, space a bit apart, this is how you know they are in their Emotional, Right Brain.
But! When you open up to your right brain, you suddenly begin to speak in a warmer, more in depth, spacial, comfortable way. And this makes her feel really really good.
Now realize that words are processed through the Emotional Processor. So the words themselves are going through an Emotional Filter/processor if you will, literally. Thus words become feelings and she feels it throughout her body!
Thus, words are emotions!
Now ladies, this is a very, very hard concept for most men to even consider let alone understand because men do not process words or communication or body language in this way.
Now the Right Brain is looking for a Deeper Meaning.
But the Left Brain is not!
Yes, ladies the left brain is the Surface level brain. So if you are wondering why men are so shallow or surface level, it's because they were designed that way, unless of course they get better and better at accessing the right brain. The More in depth, more meaningful & Emotionally Fulfilling brain.
Now remember, this was for survival of the family. He had to constantly hunt and feed the children and family.
Now the Right Brain is constantly looking for a Deeper, More in Depth, possibly spiritual meaning, even when there isn't any. But this way of processing is necessary to raise the human consciousness and to raise ourselves out of the Caveman Era. It literally gives meaning to Life. Without it, there's just work and no joy or happiness or Higher Purpose at all.
Now here's what's going on:
Her Right brain is "Unconsciously" asking 1 of 2 questions, which ultimately are the same question.
2 questions. "What does that Really Mean? What's a Deeper Meaning of that?"
Now men, please, please Understand, The Right Brains Processor was designed this way. She can't help it. It does it on it's own. The right brain is wired to automatically, unconsciously ask these questions over and over & over. And if you don't tell her what you mean, it will drive her nuts because it won't stop. Worse, it will leave her feeling empty inside.
And that's the worst possible thing you can do to a woman.
So yes, she needs the details. That's how the right brains understands and processes.
Now let's go back to my former coach "Wild Bill" and his wife.
She literally couldn't understand what he was saying at all. It was incomplete communication. Meaning the form of communication men use is like "Incomplete Sentences" to a woman. They are not complete thoughts. Now there's actually a lot of truth to this.
And she can't feel what he's feeling inside, Descriptive feelings inside, hot, warm, powerful, etc...
In Order for a woman to Understand you, she has to have an Emotional Experience of what you are saying. Meaning she, her right brain has to feel what you are saying. Otherwise she can't really understand you, at all.
For Example: When a guy walks up to a lady and compliments her, and says something like, "You are Beautiful or You are Pretty" The reason she gets pissed off, is because to her Brain, this is an incomplete thought. Here's why.
Now most guys I ask this to say, "Oh, women get mad because women are sick and tired of hearing they are beautiful or pretty , etc." In response I say, "Hahahaha... Clearly you don't understand women at all... Trust me, women love to be told they are Beautiful, but not in that way!"
Her Left Brain is just like yours. And it processes just like yours. And it, her left brain, goes, "Oh, ok, thanks!" But then her right brain goes, "What does that mean?" And you don't say anything, so her right brain is kind of freaking out.. it's going, "Well? Are you going to tell me?" "Well, what in the hell does that mean?"
So here is a complete thought to her right brain.
You, "Hi, wow, you are really pretty. I like the way your hair shines. And the cut really forms a nice frame around your face. It gives it a calm, natural and serene look that is really classy, elegant and beautiful. I like it."
Now that is a complete thought.
So here is what happens. She hears. "You are really pretty" and then her right brain goes, "What does that mean?" so you then say, "I like the way your hair shines and the way it's cut." And her right brain goes, "Well, what does that mean?" And you say, "It gives you a calm, natural and serene look." And her right brain then goes, "What does that mean to you?" And you say, It's really classy, elegant and beautiful, I like it."
And then her right brain goes, "Wow!!! Thank you! No man has ever complimented me in that way! That was very genuine."
Now, here's the reason why women get mad when you say, "You are pretty or beautiful". It's because it leaves her hanging. She's waiting for you to complete your thought. And when you don't, her brain automatically goes, "Oh, he's Freaking Lying!!! He just wants sex! Bastard!" Hahahaha...
See, her Brain goes, "Incomplete, Incomplete, Incomplete" and thus her mating system gets turned off.
Details to the Bigger Picture
So yes!!! She needs the Details, Literally! Otherwise she can't understand what you are saying, here's why.
The way the Right Brain processes is by studying the details of 1 piece of the puzzle. Then taking another piece and studying it in detail. And then connecting the 2 pieces together. And then it studies a 3rd piece of the puzzle in detail. And then connects it to the other 2 pieces already connected and so on and so on and so on, until it builds up to the Bigger Pictures!!!
The Right Brain is the Bigger Picture Brain. Meaning it likes to see the Bigger picture. And this is how the right brain Processes and Understands information. This is why women Love the Vague and Abstract. No, not all women, not all the time. But for Romance, well yes!
The Right Brain is all about the Bigger Picture, "NOT THE POINT!!!"
Get my point guys???
The Left Brain is the Detail and to the point Brain.
That's why guys like the point! And say point! Cuz point.
Want to piss a woman off, tell her "get to the point". Hahahaha...
Especially when a woman is trying to describe the details in detail to build up to the Bigger Picture. If she is taking the time to explain it in detail and you say, "Just get to the point" Man, she is going to blow a freaking fuse!!!
Why, because you can't understand it by getting to the point. And that is the problem in Relationships. The point leaves out all the details and can't put the pieces of the puzzle together. So you never see the bigger picture thus crash.
Now, Yes! The Left Brain is the Point Brain. It's all about looking under the microscope and see tiny, tiny details, being focused, etc. which is not romantic at all.
So ladies, he is just thinking and communicating in the natural way that he thinks is natural, which technically isn't natural at all but mechanical...
So when he says, "Get to the point" he's not being a smart ass.
Now, The Left Brain is the opposite of the Right Brain. It will study 1 single detail & master it. Then after that, it throws it off to the side. And then finds some completely "Unrelated" detail and studies it til mastery. Then instead of connecting the details to see how they fit together, the male instead, throws it off to the side. And does not connect the pieces of the puzzle. He does not connect the details.
Thus he Never see's the Bigger Picture. And this is a major Turn off to women and society as a whole. Cuz it makes you look kind of stupid. Especially to her. You can't lead a group of people or manage a large company if you can't see how the pieces fit & Work Together.
This is called Abstract Thinking. This is Right Brain Thinking combined with the Left Brain Details, putting them together.
If you can do this, Women will Love you. And society will value you more. And thus you will move up the ladder Professionally and Socially.
Because a leader needs to be able to see Both sides and the Bigger Picture.
Now what is Abstract thinking?
Well Abstract thinking is when you pull the pieces of the puzzle together to see the Bigger Picture. And to a lot of men, not all, this form of thinking and communicating is maddening. Why?
Because they can't do it & are not aware of it. And thus they think it's bullshit or fake. Trust me, I use to personally be on of these guys. But what's really going on, this is the proper form of thinking, processing and reasoning to use when relating to people in any kind of relationship. Because this is the Emotional, Creative, Spiritual, Social Brain you use for Relationships. People are not computers or machines. We are Emotions and Feelings and that's how we express ourselves whether we realize it or not.
There is one skill that men have highly developed as a group larger than women. And that is their Visual Cortex. It's Massive.
Back in the Caveman era all the way through the Indian American era, etc. Cavemen had to use their signals in a very subtle way.
See, when a Caveman went hunting or was fighting wars, he couldn't just scream out, "Hey Jon!!!!!!! The Deer is over there!!!"
Now, what's the obvious problem with this? The deer would take off and run away and the family would starve. Or if it was an enemy, the enemy would know where you and your buddies were, thus putting you and your team in mortal danger!
So over thousands of years, the Caveman or Male Brain began to Highly Develop the Visual Cortex. And thus a man to this day can take a look at another male and "INSTANTLY" Feel what that man is feeling unconsciously. And thus have immediate communication.
What do I mean?
Well, when men were hunting and even to this day, or in a war, they have signals, hand signals, body gestures, facial expressions that are so minute the average, majority of women simply do not see it let alone read it at all, Zero!!!
So when they were out in Battle on the trail of Danger, 1 male could signal to another male with a mere facial expression and hand gesture or 2 and communicate where the enemy was located and how many were there, etc... he could also communicate what he was going to do and what he wanted you to do, etc..
So what does this mean?
Have you ever heard the phrase a Picture says 1,000 words???
Well, that's a Male Phrase.
It's such a male phrase and such a male way of communicating that we do it unconsciously, instinctually, automatically. We don't even know that we are even doing it when we do it.
And women on the other hand are doing the opposite processes unconsciously without realizing they are doing it! See, women speak the "Internal, Mentally Stimulating and Emotionally Fulfilling language all the time." And they assume that you can do it but don't realize you are not even aware of what this is let alone know how to do it! And this is why women get mad at men all the time.
They Yell and Scream, "UGH!!! He's So lazy!!! He's so stupid!!!"
Yes, women believe you are either lazy or Stupid. You are neither. You are just a male who was wired differently.
See, we as humans are built, wired, designed and process the way we Process. And thus we assume everyone is this way! Women assume you can switch from right brain to left in an instant like she does. Women assume men speak this mentally stimulating and Emotionally fulfilling language like they do because, I mean we are all wired the same right? Answer: Nope!
(Again women assume you don't do it because you are being lazy.)
But then again, men do the same thing. We assume women think the way we think. I mean we say things like, "Get to the point." assuming you would. And men buy you dinner and drinks in expectation of sex because everyone knows eating a dead piece of Cow meat on an expensive plate is so Freaking Romantic right?
Note: Guys, paying for an Expensive dinner with a Dead Piece of meat is not Romance to a Woman's Heart. The Right Brain, Mentally Stimulating & Emotionally Fulfilling language is what Romances & Sexually turns a woman on!!
I mean when he walks in the door and you say to Wild Bill, "How was your Day Honey?" He says, "It was fine, it was good, etc.." And he assumes you actually understand what in the Hell that actually means! But you don't.
A picture says 1,000 words!
Well, what does that mean?
One thing I tell men, is that women understand through describing, describing, describing, "IN DEPTH" the details. I say, "In order for a woman to understand you, she has to have an Emotional Experience of what you are saying to her."
Guess what ladies. This is exactly what has to happen in order for him to understand you, but!!! And it's a Big But!!
In order for a male to Understand you or another male, he has to visually see the expression through male body language.
See, when a man walks into a room full of other men and says, "My day was Awesome!!!" All of those Cavemen literally Experience / Feel exactly what he is feeling." Thus they understand him.
Now the reason they can feel what he is expressing, is because their visual cortex picks up on the visual expression with the push energy of his linear language & the sound, "I feel Awesome!!!" And thus they pick up more than 1,000 words. It's very descriptive in a different way. It's full communication in the male world because there is a different component being picked up on by other men. Visual Cortex.
Men are Visual
Just as I was teaching this to a client of mine from Napa California, he said to me, "Oh that makes a lot of sense. Mike, you know the Napa Bowl?" I said, "yes." He said, "You know where you walk to the side and go to the door where the Pool tables are?" I said, "Yeah why?" He said, "Well, I was going with my girlfriend to meet her friends there. That's why we were going to the Napa Bowling alley, to meet her friends at the pool tables. So we walked into the door. And we immediately saw her friends just to the right about 4 or 5 steps ahead of us. And then we saw my Best Friend all the way over to the far corner to the right playing a game of pool.
He nodded to me quickly and then I nodded back and then I Immediately started to walk towards her girlfriends. And then she immediately grabbed my shirt and stopped me and said, "Aren't you going to go see how your friends is doing?" I said, "Oh, he's fine!" And then she immediately blew up at me and said, "Why do you lie to me all the time? How could you possibly know how he's feeling?" I said, "Because he just told me, he's fine!" "And then she accused me of lying to her again, and saying again how could I possibly know how he's feeling?"
So I immediately interrupted and said, "I know exactly what he said!!! He said, "I am doing fine, I am focused on this game, stay away, I have money on this game!" And he looked at me and Exclaimed, "Yes!!! That's what he was saying! You mean she can't tell that he was betting money on that game and wanted to be left alone because he was focused? Is that why she always accuses me of lying?" I said, "Yep!"
I said, "The way women understand communication is by "Literally" Telling them the details in depth. He said, "But he was totally in the zone and focused!" I said, "But that the way she needs to communicate in order to understand that!" He said, "Is that why women always interrupt us when we are OBVIOUSLY Focused and don't want to be bothered?"
I said, "Well, yes, because she can't understand where you are at in the moment and she wants to know. And if you don't verbally in detail communicate this to her, it leaves her with a blank.
Men and women communicate so completely differently that there is almost no way we could possibly understand each other unless we learn each others language and way of communicating.
Women tell me all the time, "I don't understand men at all. Why won't they express what they are feeling?" I say, "They do all the time, in the male way!" Problem is, she can't understand that form of communication.
So another client, who is a cop, another day, after hearing all of this said, "Wow!!! That makes a lot of sense. One day we got called to the hospital. And me and my partner arrived after another cop was already there. He was up ahead of us just around the corner looking at me. From where we were at, me and my partner, a female, could see where the bad guy was but he couldn't because there was this big thing on wheels in front of him. So I kept trying to show him with my hand signals and body language where he was at. And after a few tries, you are not going to believe this, my female partner blurted out loud, "For Crying out loud, why don't you just tell him where he's at!!! He's 20 yards directly in front of you to the right!" And she gave away his position and ours and put all of us in Danger giving away our positions!!! That just blew my mind. Trust me, when she Got Debriefed the Chief ripped her a New one!! We were Pissed off!!! Is that why she did that? That was just mind blowing!!!"
Men & women are as different as Cats & Dogs!
When a Dog Wags it's tail, it's literally saying, Please come pet me. He is welcoming you and waving a friendly flag.
So, when a Dog See's a cat, he is polite enough and knows enough to wait for the signal. You know the Bat Signal that tells him it's ok to meet and greet and approach the kitty to say "Hello!"
So the cat looks at the dog, waves it's tail. And the doggie gets all excited and goes over the cat to rub wet noses to say "Hello!" And Raaaaaaaar!!! The Cat Scratches the Dogs Nose and makes it bleed. And the dog "Yipes!!!" And pulls away, looks at you, then back at the kitty and back at you with this lost, confused look like "What's going on? What happened? Why did the Cat Scratch me?"
Well, when a Cat Waves it's tail, It's a Warning sign, saying "Stay away or I will attack!!!"
A Dogs wag and a cats wave have 2 completely different meanings, just like men and women's communication, words and body language.
Julie - He doesn't Love me! Yes he Does!!!
There's a song that is perfect to talk about right here.
"Let me Love you" Justin Bieber & Selena Gomes.
Listen to the words here: "Let me Love you! Let me Love you! Let me Love you"
What I want to say to women for now is, "Men do Love you, Intensely" but unfortunately, not in the way your heart and emotions need to be loved. But, they can learn how to Love you in that Deeper, more Emotionally Fulfilling Way that you need to feel whole and complete, Loved!
So, I had this client who, no matter what her husband would do for her, she simply didn't believe he Loved her.
So over a few weeks, I got really bold and blunt. And I said, "What Makes you think he doesn't Love you????" And she kind of beat around the bush once again. So I said, "What exactly is happening or not happening that makes you feel or believe he doesn't love you?"
She said, "Well, for Example, whenever he comes home, he won't tell me what's wrong?
So what would he do? He would push his volume louder!!!
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